How to Become Powerful (Part 1)


Are you man enough to take your freedom? Are you man enough to seize power?

If you are, read on …

Now that you know what power is, the next logical step is to learn how to acquire it. Remember, there are two parts of power:

  • needing someone less (becoming self-reliant and free)
  • getting someone to need you more (becoming invaluable and indispensable)

There are many ways to obtain power, but the fundamental two parts will never change. Burn them into your mind. In any situation, you must assess your disadvantage (based on the your need for the other party) and your advantage (based on the other party’s need for you).

Needing Someone Less — Becoming Self-Reliant and Free

Of the two parts, this one is the easiest and the most important to achieve.

Self-reliance is easy because the only person you need to achieve it is … you! It is a state of mind that only you can unlock. It might sound scary because you have no support. But you don’t need it.

Anyways, when many people are involved, nothing gets done. When two or more people are needed to do something, the task at hand becomes much more complex. You have to work with their schedules, idiosyncrasies, and inabilities. Have you ever been in a meeting where 12 different minds must come up with a consensus? It takes forever. And the end result may not even be that good. Others can teach you (like what I am doing now). They can advise you. But ultimately, you are the one who transforms your state of mind.

Self-reliance is important because, as I have just mentioned, it is a state of mind. With a proper state of mind, few things could shake you up. If you have ever been in love, you will know what I’m talking about. Now I’m not saying that you should be in love or that it is the proper state of mind, but it is something that you have most likely experienced. As long as you are with your lover, even the crappiest situation will not ruin your day. For example, if the average person hears that his plane is delayed for 12 hours, he would most likely get annoyed — possibly flip out. The rest of his day would have been ruined. But a person in love, traveling with his girl, may not even be fazed at all — as long as they are together.

That is the strength of mindset. It will completely alter who you are. You must develop a mindset of self-reliance, independence, and power.

The idea of self-reliance, or needing others less, is commonly found in may schools of though:

Basically, needing others less can be accomplished by needing less of anything that comes from an external source, other than knowledge and wisdom. Be satisfied with the bare minimum. Consume less.

Up to this point, everything has been philosophical. Philosophy is nice, but I prefer something that you can do. I’m sure you feel the same way.

So here are actions you can take today to become more self-reliant and to become more powerful:

Consume Less Items

This can be summarized in one sentence:

Stop buying crap, especially crap you don’t need.

The average person owns waaaaaaay too much crap. If you have ever tried moving to a new place to live, you will realize that it is not so easy. You will have to deal with all the crap you have accumulated. Do you keep them or do you get rid of them. You will be shocked at how much you have managed to accumulate over the years — most of the stuff you have forgotten about.

Do you ever wonder when you buy so many crap in the first place?

Well, when I was younger and dumber, I went shopping to pass time and to entertain myself. I would buy souvenirs because they’re neat. I’ll buy another shirt, even though I had 5 that were pretty much identical. I’ll buy a $200 pair of Kenneth Cole shoes, even though I already had 4 similar pairs at home.

I relied on buying useless things to make me feel good. It was nice to get something new. And it felt productive when I bought something I liked. But it is trap. The good feelings only lasted for a fleeting moment.

Whatever your reasons are for buying crap, two things happen as a result:

  1. You lose money.
  2. You lose time.

When you spend money on things you don’t need, it is just like losing it or throwing it away. Less money means less options. Less options means less power.

But losing money is preferable to buying crap. When you lose money, such as dropping loose coins without realizing it, all you lose is the money. Nothing else But when you buy things you don’t need, you spend time to buy it and to get rid of it. Losing time is worse than losing money. Money is replaceable, but time can never be replaced.

Consume Less Debt

Having debt is very much related to buying useless things (see above). But not only are you dumb for buying junk, you are dumb for borrowing money to buy them.

Understand that nothing in the world is free. You borrow money today, and you will pay it back with interest tomorrow. And if you cannot pay it back tomorrow, the interest will accumulate its own interest — also known as compounded interest. The interest will keep getting bigger and bigger, like a snowball rolling down a mountain. And if you are not careful, you will get crushed when the giant snowball of debt lands on top of you.

Basically, if you do not get your debt under control, all your money and anything you own of monetary value will belong to the lender. Congratulations! You are now its slave. All the fruits of your labor will go towards someone else.

Less money means less options. Less options means less power.

Consume Less Mainstream Media

Without TV, most people don’t have a clue what to do with their time. They work at a dead-end job that they hate. And when they come home, as a force of habit, they turn on the TV. They waste their time and their mind.

For most of their lives, they have relied one someone else to tell them what to do and what to think. Take away Netflix. Take away cable. Take away mainstream media. And you’ll get people who will have no clue what to do and what to think.

If you cannot decide for yourself, if you cannot think for yourself, you will always rely on someone else to guide you. Therefore, you will never obtain much power.

Consume Less Luxuries

In the US, modern life is quite luxurious. A poor person has a higher quality of life than even ancient kings. The advances in technology is truly marvelous. A derelict has access to medicine that was not available 100 years ago. He has access to transportation that is much faster than horses. He has access to information that was previously only available to the wealthy. He has running water and electricity. Through social welfare, he doesn’t even have to work and he can get something to eat!

It is very easy to get too comfortable in the midst of all these luxuries. In fact, many people rely on these luxuries and expect it wherever they may go.

Now I’m not saying that you should stop using modern invention. That would be stupid and hypocritical. I’m using electricity, internet connection, and a laptop to reach out to you. But I am saying that you should be able to live without them.

Experience what it is like to give in a third-world country. Experience what it is like to live without A/C. Experience what it is like to not have a hot shower. Because if you can live without the luxuries, they hold no power over you. If someone should threaten to take away your luxuries, you will not be afraid. If you can live uncomfortably. Heck, even prison would seem like a resort is can live an austere life.

But if you are addicted to life’s luxuries, you will crumble when someone threatens to take them away. You will always be at the mercy of another, in a position of weakness.

Seek Less Validation

Or in better words: develop self-confidence.

You cannot make everyone happy. You do not attract all girls. You are not awesome as everything. And that’s ok. No one is. When people put you down or voice their displeasure, is your world going to come crashing down? For the powerful: no.

If you choose the path of power, expect a lot of resistance. Most people will not understand you. In times when the world is against you, you must make a choice:

Should you keep traveling the road less traveled … or should you give up, turn back, and follow the road everyone else takes.

If your sense of worth comes from others, whether they are family, close friends, strangers, or even enemies, then you might as well turn back and live a weak life. Why improve yourself? You’ll never fit in with the sea of mediocrity. At least by being average, you’ll have lots of rapport with the powerless. You can bitch and moan with your peers about how life is so unfair. All the while, you’ll continue to get shafted by the powerful.

Seek Less Responsibility

This may sound selfish, but it is true. The man who does not need to take care of anyone else, but himself, is more powerful than a man who is responsible for others, such as a family man.

You may be able to consume less, to live without luxuries, and to not depend on other people’s opinions. But you may not have the heart to see your loved ones go through the “pains” that you go through.

For example, if you have a bad boss at work and if you’ve got no family, you may not think twice about quitting your job. If you run out of money, you’ll crash on a friend’s sofa and eat Ramen noodles. But if you have a family, you may not want them sleeping on someone’s sofa or eating only Ramen. The boss has leverage over you — your responsibility for your family. You need the money. So you’ll endure through the abuse, the hurt, and the humiliation to provide for your family.

Although your love for your family may be noble, you have sacrificed power for it.

The Free Man Is Powerful

If you can do all these things to become freer and more self-reliant, you’ll become more powerful. You’ll turn into a self-sufficient, self-confident, spartan man.

Once you become a self-sufficient, self-confident, spartan man — a free man — there is very power anyone has over you. Besides threatening you with physical harm, there is very little she can do to overpower you — to force  you to do something you don’t want to do. Since you don’t need anyone, especially if you’re a wilderness man and thus 100% self-reliant for food and shelter, you have achieved freedom, the first of the 2 parts of power.

Obviously, not many people can become a wilderness man and become totally independent. Heck, I’m not. I rely on others to grow my food. The good news is that you don’t need total independence. You just need enough  self-reliance.

What enough? Well, that depends on how well you wield the second part of power … getting people dependent upon you.

To be continued …

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  1. First Alex i want to thank you for taking the time to comment on my blog. Second i love what you said in this post! Power id something everyone has but few use. I have found it myself a long time ago and along the way i have learned that if you want something or even want to be something you have to go and get it. You have to focus because we live in a world with so much distractions. As i write this I’m alone in a dark room yes it helps me get my thoughts together.

    If people learn that they can achieve many things in life the world will be full of go-getters unfortunately it is not so since we have been so accustomed to the consumer mind. Just buy buy buy buy that is all and do not think for yourself. I tell the youth that they need to learn to think for themselves. Stop staring at that cellphone and do something productive.

    I’m still learning about my power and the two rules you have explained are the main ones that pop in my mind. At work i practice rule number 2 i make it a point to take the time and troubleshoot computer problems over phone or in person. The Chief Information Officer at times comes to me when he cannot find a solution to a computer problem. Its not that iam smarter than he is because i’m not its because i like to solve problems and yes Google does come in handy.

    Again my friend thank you for taking the time to read my post and i look forward in discussing with you more about POWER.

    Keep rising and keep in touch!

    • Alex Ding says:


      You’re definitely onto something about power. Part 2 of acquiring power is gonna come up real soon. But it seems like you already have a pretty good game plan. Power is definitely gonna be one of the main topics on my site. I plan to explore the world of criminals, sociopaths, kings, prophets, businessmen, and more.

      Anytime you wanna talk about power, just let me know. I’m always down for it.


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